tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post4056798536876302882..comments2024-02-11T19:28:27.997+11:00Comments on Personal Reflections: Kate Bolick on the decline of marriage - and menJim Belshawhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10075614280789984767noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-53960507193040904902011-10-22T02:00:19.356+11:002011-10-22T02:00:19.356+11:00Thanks, Nicholas.
That's a bit frightening,k...Thanks, Nicholas. <br /><br />That's a bit frightening,kvd. That might well be one confused boy!<br /><br />Interesting comment, Ramana. Those who can don't want to, those who want to can't.Jim Belshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10075614280789984767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-3655780965894215512011-10-22T00:07:52.369+11:002011-10-22T00:07:52.369+11:00My son and his lovely then wife decided that marri...My son and his lovely then wife decided that marriage was not for them after having been married for five years. They parted amicably and continue to be friends. Both have decided against getting married again and I see many other young people of both sexes, in similar single condition in India too. To a large extent, this is due to the economic independence now available to them and a tolerant society, at least in urban India. While I find this rather sad, if that is the way they want it, I am willing to accept their choice. On the other hand, I also know of desperate youngsters who do want to get married but are unable to find suitable matches from within their cast/religion etc, and this is more frustrating for them. Some kind of churning is taking place and this is part of many other societal churnings that are taking place all over the world. I enjoy being a spectator.Rummusernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-62232812649655757522011-10-21T18:22:19.467+11:002011-10-21T18:22:19.467+11:00Well Jim, yes Ms Bolick's essay is interesting...Well Jim, yes Ms Bolick's essay is interesting and carries some sense of society, as currently perceived through her eyes. <br /><br />But I say that as 1/7 billionth of the world's population, and in the uncomfortable knowledge that an American same-sex (female) couple recently applied to the courts to allow their (male) AI-begotten son to undergo chemical therapy, so that his observed female tendencies might be given time to play out; the prospect: perhaps physical reorientation.<br /><br />Perhaps a consequence of environment, perhaps a consequence of his genetic heredity - who knows? I certainly have no answers.<br /><br />kvdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-3069904110927810692011-10-21T17:30:27.010+11:002011-10-21T17:30:27.010+11:00Thanks - interesting post.Thanks - interesting post.Nicholas Gruenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08979019731787830666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-64452875612416565722011-10-21T16:30:13.608+11:002011-10-21T16:30:13.608+11:00I wonder if this isn't an area of actual progr...I wonder if this isn't an area of actual progress, Evan? <br /><br />As a manager, I came across this first a very long time ago when one of my staff, a single male father, was struggling. I worked around the rules to help him, but it would have been seen as unusual then.<br /><br />It's not all progress, mind you. Many organisations have rules now that are intended to help. The problem with rules is that they make you less flexible. It's actually easier if you have the intent to do things without rules! That's good as well as bad.Jim Belshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10075614280789984767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-50349625504440480662011-10-21T12:39:12.408+11:002011-10-21T12:39:12.408+11:00To clarify. I wasn't meaning the individual w...To clarify. I wasn't meaning the individual women or men. But how many workplaces allow time off to accommodate a family crisis - that's what I was thinking about when I said money over compassion.Evanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355215688351759230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-53391062307698047362011-10-21T12:20:22.011+11:002011-10-21T12:20:22.011+11:00It's difficult, Evan. The initial effects wide...It's difficult, Evan. The initial effects widened women's job opportunities, created an expectation that women would work, but left them with the majority of home duties. so that required another adjustment process. <br /><br />Both men and women live and work in a broader context. As you say, women now get to work long hours and see their family less. It is jobs before family in some cases, although I would not accept money before compassion.Jim Belshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10075614280789984767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24338064.post-29180872436030766242011-10-21T11:53:42.248+11:002011-10-21T11:53:42.248+11:00I think Germane got it right: Women started out de...I think Germane got it right: Women started out demanding liberation and settled for equality. Ie. women now get to work long hours and not see their family too!<br /><br />The values have remained the same - jobs before family, money before compassion.<br /><br />It is very sad.Evanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355215688351759230noreply@blogger.com